As cliché as it may seem, I wish more peopled subscribed to the notion of, “if you can’t say anything, say nothing at all.” I’ll get on Facebook, see an article with a purposefully controversial headline, and then click the comments. It’s nothing but people posting their nasty or negative comments, or arguing with people they never have and never will meet. It’s my own fault. It usually happens when I have succumbed to boredom. I am tired of it. I wish people could just read something, disagree in their own mind, and move on. It’s social media. It isn’t that big of a deal.
Also, why is it when someone is excited about something, someone inevitably has to point out the negative aspects. My mother is this way. My in-laws are this way. Just let someone be excited. If you have concerns, bring them up later, not right then. Deflating someone’s joy in the moment is bordering on cruel. I am all about, “Positive Vibes Only,” as cheesy as it may sound. I feel like the negative thought pattern I have been in for the last several years has led me down a road of deep depression. I’m not saying it caused it, but it definitely made it worse. I still have negative thoughts, and I still silently pass judgment. I’m acknowledging those thoughts and redirecting my thought patterns. I am trying to live a stress less, positive life. It is an incredible balancing act, though. Like I’m precariously perched atop a tiny mountain, and if I lean too much one way I may tumble down the side to my death.
I am tired of looking at the problem and keeping my focus on that. I am learning to recognize and acknowledge the problem, and moving on to possible solutions.